{"id":2186,"date":"2021-11-17T10:06:35","date_gmt":"2021-11-17T09:06:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/?p=2186"},"modified":"2024-12-09T13:18:51","modified_gmt":"2024-12-09T12:18:51","slug":"management-of-similarity-moment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/2021\/11\/17\/management-of-similarity-moment\/","title":{"rendered":"Management of Similarity Moment"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/disappointment-1024x640.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3962\" width=\"512\" height=\"320\" srcset=\"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/disappointment-1024x640.png 1024w, https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/disappointment-300x188.png 300w, https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/disappointment-768x480.png 768w, https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/disappointment.png 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I recently came into a situation in which a collaborator had made herself unreliable, to the extent that she was no collaborator at all. In the aftermath of the most recent disappointment, I got the idea to message her to say that I saw no way of working with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then I had a <a href=\"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/2021\/10\/04\/management-of-similarity\">management of similarity<\/a> moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The goal of my message was already achieved, namely, non-collaboration. I had nothing to do or say in order to get the outcome I wanted. I could only get the dark satisfaction of making my disappointment known. On the other hand, by saying nothing, I could leave the door open for some future unreliable, spontaneous contribution. I could maybe get something rather than assuredly nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Management of similarity is hard because it is counter-intuitive. After all, right is right and wrong is wrong. I see, however, over and over again, that the notions of &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/2022\/10\/22\/moral-superiority\">right and wrong<\/a>&#8216; are a wrench in the gear-works of my life. They were put in my my mind by other people for other purposes than me dealing with the matter at hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do billionaires believe in right and wrong? There is no evidence of it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are they getting what they want? Yes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are they financing media that tells us what is right and wrong? Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are we getting what we want?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The most secure prison is the one that inmates do not notice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Management of similarity is hard,  precisely because we prefer to believe in &#8216;right and wrong.&#8217;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3962,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[92],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2186"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2186"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2186\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4081,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2186\/revisions\/4081"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3962"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/earlywithdrawal.net\/tolton\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}